facebook’s sexual piousness. please HELP!

January 26, 2010

We have this problem in pious Christian circles that we don’t talk about sex. I have a very good friend who was trained at home to never even use the word sex, references to sex had to be done using some obscure phrase like “playing in the bushes” etc. For many of us brought up in pious circles sex was a dirty word. Many have written about the problems with this, but it would seem that facebook might share in this piousness.

One of the problems with this piety, was that healthy conversations about sexuality was stifled in the process as well, questions about sex was killed off, and maybe worse of all, it made it all the more difficult for those who have been the victims of sexual crimes to even mention what happened to them.

Last night Idelette, who is always fighting for justice, tweeted with a reference to a brilliant article about sex trafficking. I read the article, changed the tweet a bit, and retweeted. Tweetdeck found some kind of problem with posting to facebook, so I copied the tweet and tried posting to facebook. At this point I found out that facebook doesn’t like the reference to either sex trafficking or the article, since it said that my update contained content that some might find offensive. I made a second and third attempt, but got the same response.

Since I really believe this is a brilliant article, and wanted to spread the word among my contacts, I then  continued with different options. Changed the shortened URL to the full URL, took out the http:// so it might not pick it up as a link. Nothing worked. I finally took out the link entirely, and this worked. So the reference to “Sex trafficking” wasn’t the offensive part, but the link to the article was.

So after posting the update without the link, and pasted the link as the first comment on the status update. This seemed to work, or so I thought. I went to bed.

I wasn’t able to sleep, so after maybe an hour, probably less, I stood up to work on some stuff, and suddenly I couldn’t come into facebook. My account was suspended.

First test is to recognize a number of faces from friends photos and identify the people. I don’t add random people to my facebook friends list, but I have a LOT of bloggers that I haven’t met face2face yet, so many of the photo’s I don’t recognize. Then I have to answer the security question, which it just keep on repeating even though I answer correctly (when I answer incorrectly it lets me know, otherwise it just ask again).

The only reason I can think of for being suspended, was my continuous attempts at linking to an article on sex trafficking. Is this possible? Can facebook be so much similar to conservative Afrikaner culture? I mean,  get paid suggestions to add scantily clothed woman as friends on a regular basis, similar to the way we watched stories like Baywatch and Vetkoek Paleis but never talked about the realities of problems of sexuality in a healthy manner in homes.

Can this be? Can someone help me?


5 Responses to “facebook’s sexual piousness. please HELP!”

  1. Andries Louw Says:

    I don’t have anything to add to your hypotheses but I just went to your fb profile and wrote on your wall so at least we know that is still standing!

  2. Maybe it’s a lesson that Facebook is for your close circle of friends (where you would recognise the faces) and Twitter is for your broader community.

  3. Tiaan Says:

    “Programs such as Vetkoek Paleis suggested that we add scantily clothed women as friends.” Lol! 😉
    Sorry, ek moes net…

  4. cobus Says:

    laat ek raai, ek het alweer onwetend op een van die Afrikaner heilige koeie getrap???

  5. Cori Says:

    The inconsistencies around what is and isn’t acceptable in the area of sex is indeed fascinating. Scantily dressed women in advertising is fine. Calling your five-year-old girl sexy is okay. Watching sex scenes in movies is passable. Talking openly and honestly about your sex life is not. Talking about different sexual techniques within marriage is not. There’s a lot I’m trying to work out around the topic.

    Thanks for bringing up this precarious issue through this anecdotal Facebook experience!

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